This Beautiful Life

This Beautiful Life by Helen Schulman is a thinker. We start out with a lovely family - wife, husband, son who is on the verge of 16, adopted daughter. Everything is normal and nice. The mom may be slightly neurotic, but - hey - who isn't?
The son, Jake, goes to a party one night and has a drink or two. He makes out with a younger girl, but realizes his mistake and ends it before it goes too far.
The next day the girl sends him a graphic video just to prove that she's not too young, as he said the night before when he walked away.
Jake, not sure what to do and feeling awkward, forwards the video to his best friend...who forwards it to a few friends...who do the same. Soon this video is viral.
The school suspends Jake. Folks lawyer up. The perfect little family unravels under the stress and scrutiny. Jobs are lost. Innocence is definitely lost.
The conundrum, when reading this - is who is really at fault? Everyone in the book is tarred and feathered. Lives are changed. But the girl made the video - unsolicited. Jake forwarded the video to one person. Is Jake responsible? Is the friend? The friends who view it and are over 18 - are they involved with a minor and pornography? Oh, my head hurt when trying to figure out the situation.
And the worst thing is that, in this day and age, nothing is confidential. How do we teach this to our kids - who sometimes aren't good with logic? Very carefully we have to impart integrity, honor, respect and be very careful about our actions. Schulman doesn't let anyone off the hook in this novel. Oooohhh...a lot to think about.